All too often as mothers we deal
with a sense of loss, regret or tragic circumstances which can
literally consume the rest of our lives. When this happens it
can also be like ripping away the value of the time we spent as
mothers. We finally come to realize that we must make peace
with ourselves and at the very least, respect the effort and
treasure the moments. We can find ourselves in heartbreak over
an endless number of reasons.
How do you choose to
This web site
is simply a work in progress just as with all personal growth. Please help
it grow better by letting me know of any errors you may come across
or what I may have left out of interest to you.
Cheer people through their strengths, and
nurture them through their weaknesses.
There are two ways of spreading light; to be
the candle ... or the mirror that reflects it." - Edith
By contributing editor Jonelle
I suggest the pain is in resisting what is
happening. Always remember you are a Mother forever and being a
Mother gives you the opportunity to love your children regardless of
their reactions right now. That is called unconditional love. Let
them know you love them regardless of what they are saying . They
need to know your love is constant and you need to know your love is
Delete the need to understand what is happening
and accept and listen to your voice of wisdom so you can respond
from wisdom and clarity rather than fear and victimization which
reacts from pain. Are you writing out your feelings and burning
The important thing is to remember we have
choices in how to respond. To blame, make excuses, attack, defend,
live in the past and future. . . or we can choose to accept
and forgive and live in the present, learning how to experience
I know no greater gift for the children than to
experience a Mother who is forgiving and being present in the
now. That is of benefit to everyone involved.
I suggest reading "The Power of Now,"
John Lee's book on hormones and perhaps seek out one of the many
forgiveness studies or projects going on to share stories of
We have learned a lot about the strength within
that can overpower the thought of weakness and
The choice is one we all have--- Love bears all
things, hopes all things, endures all things. . . or if
allowed, the ego resists all things, judges all things, punishes all
things and fears all things.
Honoring the reflection of love that you
are. Jonelle Reynolds
BACK TO THE
The common thread of
a mothers heartache is an endless one. Do you have
anything to add to the list?!
Finish every day and be done with it.
You have done what you could. Some blunders and absurdities no doubt crept
in; forget them as soon as you can. Tomorrow is a new day.
Begin it well and serenely and with too high a spirit to be encumbered
with your old nonsense. This day is all that is good and
fair. It is too dear, with its hopes and invitations, to waste a
moment on yesterdays.- Ralph Waldo Emerson
Made simply for sharing the contents of a
mothers sore and aching heart with other mothers.
Consider this a
place where you can open your feelings and clean out some
clutter, grief or anger that may be a deep sad heart pain. Or just
use it as a place to rest a bit, and to read, to reflect, to share
feelings or helpful suggestions in the wonderful healing way that women
have of helping each other through difficult times.
"Once a mother, always a mother!" In no time at all the years go by and we are
left with our personal measure of joys and sorrows. There are years
we can feel like we have the world in control, and then come the years of
learning and learning, and learning.
During some very difficult times with my own
children I've discovered how many thousands and
thousands of mothers are also dealing with similar heartaches
Whatever your situation, this may be a good
place for you to open your heart, pour out the sadness... pour out the
pain, grief, or guilt you may be carrying so you can begin to heal from
those things which cannot be changed.
I am so humbly grateful that my four children
are all living happy, productive, successful lives. The journey from
my own childhood to the present has been a long and difficult one. I
treasure all of the angel's who have touched my path with lights for me to
try to follow along the way.
Whatever your heart holds can be healed or
Looking back we sometimes find it easy to
blame ourselves for not having done some things differently, but that's
like saying, "If only I could have spoken five more languages...then
things would have been different!"
We must realize and accept that we did what we
knew how to do at that time and that is obviously all we knew to do at
Wisdom grows from experience for
Thank you for sharing your
stories with me. Your emails are quite enlightening and truly
magnificent in the sense that you have found ways to go on with your lives
in spite of those painful broken hearts.
What special gift do I bring to the
What aspect of my life do I need to examine
If I simply followed my heart, what actions
would I take?
How will I be remembered by my friends and
What is one of the key factors that will
contribute to my happiness?
What will enable me to take the next
important step in my life?
In what way have I underestimated myself?
If I could do anything, with no limits, what
would I do?
What hidden treasure have I yet to find?
How or where have I allowed myself the
Some of us have lost a child (or children).
Some of us may have a child who's been abused.
Some of us are mothers or have mothers dealing with
cancer. Poem by a Mom.
Some of us have a child in a difficult circumstance or
Some of us have children who are chronically ill or
dying Poem by a Mom.
Some of us may have been misunderstood by a child (or
Some of us may be angry with a child (or
Some of us may be estranged from a child (or
Some of us may be the child of a mother we have never
Some of us may be the mother of a child we have never
Some of us may feel unloved by children that don't appear to
Some of us are adopted or foster children or are foster or
Some of us may be suffering abuse from our child (or our
The stories in this web site are
from women who want to share what has happened to them and find ways to
cope with their anguish. Take heart... because more than many of
these women have gone on to flourish, and grow because they learned to
deal with it.
Here you can leave your stories
to share, vent, or lament, and then hear others, heal and
So be sure to leave your special
message because you never know who might need to hear exactly the one